RESILIENCE COMES THROUGH GOOD SELF TALK Think before you think, think before you speak, think before you react... and ask "Am I in an Inspired Space?"
Your words can trigger different parts of your mind and therefore affect your thinking, feeling and emotions. The wisest language is the highest.
The lowest language is the most violent and turbulent. This is called motivation.
There is a language that reveals us.
A person who says "I got to do this" is in a state of flight/fight and will be more than likely to be aggressive or its opposite, depressed.
But studies have shown that a person who uses the word got to, or have to, triggers the fight flight response even if it's a rather benign situation like "I've got to wash the dishes."
This is why we don't put brute force on impermanent things. Got to and Have to try to force ... and in 99% of the cases it's used, it fails.
Should is a value statement. You should. Thou Should. etc... In this case someone is imposing their values on you or you are imposing your values on them ... you should, we should etc. A person who is not living their true values will feel disconnected.
Need to is rising in Maslow's list and is the state of mind of the emotionally sensitive. This Need space is still not of any great genius and will, for the greater part, implode on itself.
Want to is as high as Maslow reached.
HOW CORPORATE RESILIENCE FAILS US IN EVERYDAY LIFE
The survey below implies that there are key drivers for resilience. They do not say "at work" nor do they say "these drivers do not work at home."
Can you discuss why some of these drivers will lead to personal and emotional breakdown if applied in general to life.
We always use the "TOTAL HUMAN AWARENESS" Model to define good lifestyle behaviours and this is a good example of how fragmenting personal success can cause us to completely get self analysis wrong.
The chart suggests having clarity on your goals and reason for your goals, along with looking after your health and exercising regularly, contributes most to being resilient. Other key drivers include: 1. Being able to clearly articulate your personal goals 2. Letting go 3. Rarely complaining, but instead choosing to either act or let it go.