Hi guys today. I want to talk about something that is so easily misunderstood, and that is the ability to discern whether you're in a go-to or assured or need to, or want to space.
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And I'm going to do that using this, sketchpad video. So let's just say, hypothetically, we read a book about love in the world, and we start resonating with the vibe or the concept of living from your heart.
Love to we've read the book. We know all the chapters we meditate. We are, um, peaceful. We live in harmony.
We do no harm. We eat no mosquitoes. We be careful about the flies and the spiders. Uh, we eat only pure organic vegetables that have never been, uh, crossed the path of anything bad in our life.
And we be pure and beautiful, but still we get sick or still we get problems or still things don't happen the way we want them, or still things go pear shaped in certain aspects of our life.
And the question is, why is that? I'm about to demonstrate to you exactly the answer. I'll turn my head from the screen as always to work on the eye.
Okay. When you build a pyramid, you'll notice. Yes, but there are blocks at the bottom of the pyramid. And those blocks at the bottom of the pyramid are really important.
Those blocks at the bottom of the pyramid, uh, the foundations in our life, we would call those the roots of the tree.
So we can, you see here, the God twos are the roots of the tree. Now what happens if the roots of the tree and deep tree falls down, or the nourishment doesn't come to the tree or its foundation gets wobbly in the wind.
So when you read a book about love operating at a love to level, we quite often jump from God to, to love to, which is the equivalent of going from kindergarten to university, with nothing in between.
Now we might be a great scientist. We might be a genius that can be three years old and at university.
But if someone says to us, um, tie your shoes, clean your teeth, do a pu a walk in the park, be careful of the trucks we can't.
And so we don't survive. So quite often we are getting invited to study the higher levels of life without putting in place the foundation stones on which to build those higher levels.
Um, it would be the same as, um, an athlete. An athlete for example, might know how to ride a bike really fast and be able to ride that bike to in the tour de France and win an event until they're tired until they've done 18 previous days of bike riding until they've done, uh, till it's raining till the storm comes to lose bumps in the road and all until there's other competitors.
And when other competitors arrive, the foundation skills of the champion are tested to the limit. And if they haven't done their got twos, they're going to crash.
When we read a book or do meditation, or do some form of spiritual leap frog, we jump up the ladder or get promoted up the ladder.
We quite often leave behind the stuff that we learned in the past, but a kid learns to clean their teeth and drink a glass of water and, uh, uh, do a week before bed and, uh, put on their pajamas and tidy up their clothes for not so they can leave it behind.
So it becomes automatic. And we as adults learn certain fundamentals to life. So they become automatic quite often. What will happen as we try to make jumps up that up the mountain and live at higher levels of personal awareness, we can quite often leave behind the stuff that we're sick and tired of and try to make a leap up the mountain.
And then people will step into our life and we will start reacting to them, especially if they're operating at a, got to level.
Now, people come into our lives, operating at a, got to level operating, very, um, stoically operating, very, um, mathematically rationally, logically, very earthy, no, uh, uh, adventure in their thoughts, very critical, very controlled, very, uh, sometimes very angry, sometimes very emotional, sometimes very volatile, sometimes quite annoyingly.
So to reveal to us that we have Stu got our God to use in our life that we need to operate with some level of massive discipline.
Now let's just say, go back to the athlete example. Let's just say the athlete knows how to stretch. They know how to put on their shoes properly.
They know how to warm up that they know how to, um, uh, carry nutrients like, um, um, uh, water and gels for their event.
But because they get more and more skilled and more and more better at their event, they forget the basics and they say, ah, bugger all that I just want to race.
And what will happen is they will be brought back to the basics to remind them of the foundation principles on which they can build their champion status.
And we often get bought back to witness in our lives. People operating at very low consciousness with, or without discipline to remind us of who we really are, because just because we jump up in awareness, we read a book.
And just because we know stuff about how meditation and know how the brain works and know what it feels like to be in Nevada, when we meditate or take a drug, it doesn't allow us to ignore or forget or bypass or, uh, drop the disciplines that keep us at a got to level.
What we try to do is organize our gut twos with incredible, uh, what's the word for it. I'm looking for with incredible, uh, daily routine.
That's what it is within incredibly incredible daily routine. So we'd get up at a certain time. We'd take her a breakfast.
We have a coffee, we'd go for a run or a Walker, or we take a photo of nature. We say, thank you to the universe for being in life.
We eat a healthy breakfast with our family. We do fundamental stuff and we never, we try never to break this, uh, routine because it's a got to stuff.
These are the gut of our life. We go to work. There are certain things that need to be delivered on time every time.
And we can get quite often carried away with the idea of being inspired or being a great leader or getting the biggest job done or making sales.
And we forget the basics like doing our risk expense reports, doing our daily walks, doing our thank you's to other people in the business, respecting our clients saying thank you to them doing the mini things or, or operating even at home, we go home and we forget to give a kiss.
We forget to give a touch. We forget to say thank you for, we forget to, um, respect somebodies emotion to witness our own emotion, to do our emotional shower.
We sometimes as we climb up a ladder, we forget the basics of the ladder and that makes the pyramid unstable.
And what we can very easily end up with is a, a pyramid that looks more like this, that we're in some aspects of life in half our lives.
We're growing up with it, the love twos and the, and the need twos and the one twos we got the gut to should a need to want to desire to choose to love too.
But there's the, the other aspect of our life lacks the discipline. And so there's big, big, big gap on way.
We're building everything on top. And that makes us incredibly vulnerable, incredibly insecure, and incredibly unstable because what we're in a sense, we've built this on somebody else's discipline.
So I just change my pen color here, just so it's a little clearer. If we build our life on our own, want tos and desire twos and choose twos, but we haven't had the discipline to put in place our foundation principles for our self, our emotional awareness, our, uh, our, uh, health program, our daily gratitudes we've we haven't done that.
What we're basically doing is hoping like hell, our partner will do that bit so that we can ignore it and get on with our life up here.
And that means that every time they skip their disciplines, or every time they do something at a got to level that isn't, um, co calibrated our whole world sponges down on them.
And this can happen at work too. You might go to work and say, um, I'm not going to do my God.
Two's at the office. I'm not going to have my emotional management, my structural management, my time management. I want to make sure everybody else does.
So then our future is very much conditional on them, completing their part. And, and, and what we've done is we've sort of, um, delegated our responsibilities down and made us ourselves vulnerable to somebody else's mess up.
So the bottom of the pyramid, the God to area of life, and to a certain degree, I should say the foundation pillars on which we build the internal compass, the daily disciplines, the routines, the disciplines, the habits, the goal setting, all of these things remain absolutely critical to our ability to exist in the higher end of the pyramid.
And when we delegate these things to others, we become vulnerable. So this is what's called systematize. Now apps are brilliant.
Uh, iPhone is spectacular or phones are spectacular, um, programs on your computer spectacular. If they enforce a daily discipline that you commit to, I give you a good example.
I go for a walk early in the mornings, and I go down the beach when there's a coaching program to be done.
When there's a, when my partner gets up and goes for a swim or go somewhere out on a bike, I find it very easy to go down to beach.
So my disciplines are very strong, but if my partner decides to stay in bed for the morning, have a break, I don't have a client.
I'm a bit tired. I've always got a reason to, I suppose you can call it, flick off the app or just kill the discipline.
And I fall prey to, in a sense, I'm relying on somebody else to determine my daily routine. And therefore I get a real strong witnessing during that day of, of the instability of my life.
I own, um, my own on consciousness, if you want to call it that. So they're relying on someone else to do the gut two part for us is okay, as long as it's systematized to the point where they can't make muck up.
So in other words, they, um, they, uh, are encouraged to follow a routine, but for the most part, we need to have a routine where we are checking on people, checking to make sure that we're all in a system.
If the God Susan should dues are not in a system. If they're not automated, if they are not fixed, then it's like having a pyramid or a Mount Everest floating on a lake.
And if you can imagine the waters floating up and down and all these things, and they give these examples of icebergs, you know, so much under the, under the ice, but who cares if what's underneath the water is floating still.
It still can go up and down. And our stability, our ability to do, to manifest what we want becomes unstable.
So we need to give respect to systematize nation of our God twos and love to not ignore them, because we read a book on love and how to live in a higher consciousness and things not rise up and say, oh, I'm only here to live my inspired vision.
We start by, by remembering what we learned in kindergarten, that there are, uh, for exercise, there is recovery time for, um, uppers.
There are downers that for nourishment, you need good food and, uh, good health and eat right, and eat at the right time and good sleep.
And, and things like this aura ring, uh, is, is telling me 24 seven, whether I'm recovering and whether I'm getting good sleep.
So I even automate that piece of my life to make sure that I don't have to worry about it, or it doesn't become, what's called a variable.
Uh, if as we rise up the seven areas of life to need to need to is the reptilian part of us, the part that gets Parkinson, the brainstem and in this part of us, um, if we haven't balanced out our gut twos and should do is have an applied discipline, haven't applied routine, haven't set up daily habits, depend on somebody else to be our, um, to be our foundation, depend on somebody else down here to be our foundation.
Then we end up in extremely, extremely emotional states. Now those extremely emotional states are very spooky because they throw our higher level.
So thinking into instability and when we get, uh, an illness like Parkinson's, it's because that area of the brain has not only been dealing with emotion, which is beautiful storytelling, it's creative and all the wonderful things about that part of the brain.
But that part of the brain has been functioning to manage the gut twos. And the should do is it's been overloaded overworking to manage the lower levels that ne that, uh, would have been far wiser to use the part of the, our life brain or part of our existence to automate, to systematize, to make sure we use discipline.
And, uh, and what have you in the same with our should our, should our, our metric, our internal compass, our morals and ethics.
And there are things that we, we w I would call them our, our authenticity, if, if, if, if we're being corrupt to ourselves and corrupt to others, our shoots are wobbly, and we'll use emotion above that and overtax that part of our brain.
And it's the same with one two, but as we get up to this area of one, to this higher level of op of operation, if we start to tax our want to, to do all the work that the, the gut to should a need to, we start sabotaging deemed materializing, because this is the, this is the basal ganglia.
This area of life is where, um, the, the higher thinking starts. And so if we're taxing this part of the brain to do all the work that needed to be done and should have been done, and it's got to be done by lower levels of the brain, if that part of us, the manifestation part, the part that actually knows what we want decides what we want sets goals for, what we want, if that part of the brain is also doing the lower work we become exhausted.
And that is where we get mental health problems of depression. And what have you. So what I'm saying is it's all very well to understand what it's like to be an inspired leader.
It's all very well to understand how important it is to live in a state of love and, and, and have a great dynamic at home, but the disciplines and the foundations need to be built up the person who gets to a Mount Everest.
And you hear it over and over again about these cues that they've got on the summit. The reason that they've got cues on the summit of Mount Everest is exactly what we're talking about here.
There are people who don't know the foundations of mountaineering, don't know the shoulds and shouldn'ts of a high altitude climbing, grab an oxygen mask and a rug, and get pulled up towards the top, by our commercial, uh, companies to, to reach the top of Mount Everest.
But up here, if there's a variable, if any of the things change, weather changes cold. If there's a frightened, if somebody gets fear that they haven't been able to, um, um, manage down in the lower levels of their emotional and mental wellbeing, if they get fear up here, it's death, and they start to queue up on the, on the hill up the way, uh, to the summit.
And so this is a consequence. This is like promoting people from a bottom of a business to well up in a business.
It's like, I'm not teaching children disciplines and not teaching children about shoulds and shouldn'ts and crossing the road and out in the street and stranger danger.
If you don't teach them this stuff and they go out and world and they turn 18, then they are going to end up very vulnerable out there, because they'll be at a very high level of independence without all the foundation stones that are essential to underpin that there'll be, there'll be using their emotional brain to do things that needed to be rationally thought through.
Now, the reason a lot of this happens, and I think is really important for us to finish off with, I don't like this color.
So I'm going to change it to blue. Blue is for sky. The reason that the, and a lot of this happens is the pyramid of that we'd divide that we know the seven levels of human being, seven levels of brain of mind.
The pyramid is divided into two sides. A lot of people don't know this defendant and the masculine, and quite often, yeah, we have a judgment of, oops, I've got my head in the way of this page.
So I'll just move this across for the minute, uh, somehow to demonstrate that, uh, there's a feminine and the masculine, you see that there.
So this masculine side, which is a rising back up towards the top, and this is the feminine side, which is falling down into the process of manifestation, giving birth to things.
And this is the maintenance side. Quite often, people have a judgment of the masculine, the father figure, or the maleness or anger or violence.
And so they say, I don't want to live anywhere near the, got to level of life. I, because it reminds me too much of strictness and rules and the disciplines.
They're happy to have half of it, the feminine side, which is the, um, abundance and the joy and the caring and the nurturing and the kindness that comes from the feminine aspect of God too, which is the, which is nurture.
But the nature part of it, which is, you know, taking responsibility and the harshness of it, they say, I don't want to have this part.
So what they try to do is they've tried to find a spiritual paradigm or a life paradigm, right? In which one half of the, the pyramid is cut off.
And so they say, well, I'll embrace the two sides of life at a higher level, at a want to or choose to, or even desire, which is sexuality.
They'll embrace the two sides of being a human being at a high level, but they won't embrace it at a lower level.
And when we get a judgment, we say, our mum was too soft, or dad was too hard, or our feminine is too weak.
And masculine is too strong, or we get some judgment. It makes us unable to be the enforcer in our own life.
And so we want to be the, that we want half. And so what we start to try to do is to be a half person to, to embrace the one half of things, which is the, and be very, I've got to be kind, I've got, gotta be nurturing.
I've got to be friendly. I've got to be warm to my kids. I've got to be a provider. And then I've, then it's, I should be, um, I should be available for people for my children and my family.
I should be, um, balanced. I should be harmonious. I should be a contributor. But if I say to that person, you should be tough.
You should, you should be mean you should be strong. I go, no, no, no, no. I don't want this side of the pyramid.
And you, and all these, uh, strict regimented things, then here, you should be, um, uh, pain tolerant. You should, you got to be, uh, regimented and they'll say, no, I want to be over here on the feminine side, have got to on the feminine side or should.
And the feminine side of emotion, which is the creative gift birth manifestation side, but they don't want to be on the masculine side of it and not talk talking about male here.
I'm talking about the masculine principle of causing chaos, of being tough of being a discipline. You know, the pain of regret outweighs the pain of discipline, but there's a lot of people got issues with discipline because it reminds them too much of a grumpy father or an absent father or a, an absent mother or, or, or an alcoholic person in the library reminds them too much of something.
And therefore they find it really hard to go there. And what they try to do is instead of embracing the foundations of their life, they try to find a principle way up the pyramid in which they don't have to embrace either.
So they, they just take all of the left-hand feminine principles with them, go up to some paradigm and say, I'm going to be a beautiful, loving, caring father with absolute kindness, love and affection to all my children, unlike my own dad, or unlike my own mother.
And I'm going to provide that to my family. And then they go to work and then someone at work says, fuck off.
And they're sitting there going, oh, how do I be that nice kind, loving person in the face of this attack?
And the only way they can do it is to embrace this part of themselves. Now they've got a dysfunction and the part of their brain is going to be in a, in a fight flight position because they're, they can't achieve what they want, but without going into the dark territory, they don't want to go into, so it's a fascinating study.
And basically, uh, the way I would word this, if I was doing a seminar in, in Australia, we have a PowerPoint that looks like this.
This is, uh, the three pin PowerPoint. And I believe that the plug that goes into that, which is usually a, uh, uh, a plug, which has three things on it, the plug that goes into that PowerPoint, I think that PowerPoint connects us to the universe.
This is the universe over here. And this PowerPoint is basically mum and dad, until we do a complete discard process on mum and dad were out here, isolated, drifting away, floating around, trying to organize our pyramid, split between priorities, trying to work out what we can embrace and making it up, which makes us feel really inauthentic and insecure in order to build this foundation solid right across.
It's really, really, um, important to do a complete discard on mum and dad, and if necessary, grandma and grandpa, but usually mum and dad reflect all the masculine, feminine principles, no matter how they were shared between those two people.
And until we can unconditionally love mum and dad, we don't tap into the universe. And if we don't tap into the universe, we don't tap into the fire, which is the discipline, which enables us to build foundation and build a so-called spiritual, um, uh, way of living on top of the solidarity of material success.
That's a great day. Bye for now.